mindfulness

Focusing on the Moment

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In 1980, I attended a two-weekend (6-day, 60-hour) transformation course known as “The EST Training”. During the training, I gained self-confidence, learned how to make meaningful choices, and enjoy life. The last day of the training, I declared my main goal in life was to make a difference in the world. Forty years later I am still focusing on the same goal.

Yesterday morning, I was thinking about what type of project I could create that would make a difference in a person’s life. This thought stopped me in my tracks. Why was I always thinking about making a difference instead of enjoying the happy moments in my own life?

Yesterday, my daughter was so busy with work she didn’t have time to plant flowers for me. I was annoyed at first that she couldn’t help me. Then I realized that I was jealous because she had a project to work on and I had nothing important to do. How irrational was that thought?

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Moving Forward

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Since March 2020, we have been living with the threat of COVID. When you listen to the news,  the first thing you hear is what is happening in Ukraine, and then COVID. When are we going to get back to living our lives without the fear of COVID?

Now we don’t have to wear a mask when indoors. Is that safe? Whenever I enter a store, the first thing I do is put my mask on. Yesterday when I went food shopping, most people were still wearing a mask.

I was speaking to someone yesterday who is frightened to leave her house. She will only go into a store if there are only a few people there. Otherwise, she just leaves. On the other hand, some of my friends are not wearing masks and even going to the movies. Everyone has their own opinions.

I am careful and still living my life. I’m meeting friends for lunch or dinner, going into stores with a mask, and not going to the movies.

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Life Stresses

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“Negativity” makes me crazy. At a networking event, I was speaking to another entrepreneur about the merits of social media. He felt that social media was a waste of time and anyone who used it was making a big mistake. Then he quickly changed the subject and told me about the terrible selection of breakfast food being served. I felt my stress level rising as I don’t feel comfortable with negative people. My first reaction was to tell him about the benefits of being positive. Instead, I just smiled and remained quiet.

Later, while driving home, I was angry at myself for not saying anything. I thought of ways in which I could have responded, especially about social media. I could have told him how social media has helped my blog to grow and allowed me to read posts from my grandchildren and learn about friend’s happy occasions. I promised myself that next time, I will share my thoughts instead of smiling and remaining quiet. Let’s take bets it will never happen.

Whenever I am overwhelmed – with answering too many emails, going out every night of the week, doing taxes, or cooking meals – I start shoving food into my mouth. Start with crackers, peanut butter from the jar, ice cream, and anything else that is crunchy or sweet, and always end the binge with fruit.

In order to control these bingeing tactics, I could meditate, take long walks, or call a friend to vent and find solutions. Recently, I have been trying these techniques and sometimes they work. I need to practice more. In some ways stress can be healthy, as it helps me cope with demanding situations.

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Give yourself a gift by living in the present moment

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I heard a loud bang!  It sounded like a bird crashing into the window. To my surprise, there was a baby bird sitting on the window ledge. It was looking at me!  We had a great conversation!  The bird was chirping, and I was sharing about what was presently going on in my life. It certainly was a special moment!

What a long way I have come, becoming aware of my surroundings.  Many years ago I would have heard the bang, saw nothing was broken, and continued with my day. I was the type of person who was always thinking about the future, and not focusing on what was happening in the present. How sad to have missed so many special moments. My behavior changed after taking many workshops and self-development trainings. I realized how important it was to enjoy today because you never know what tomorrow will bring.  What a blessing experiencing life in the moment!

Yesterday I had coffee with my granddaughter, who was telling me about her fantastic Israeli trip. Listening intently, I was able to experience through her eyes and learn about the places she visited. This experience brought us even closer.

Living in the moment is not easy; it takes practice.  Even though I have been practicing this behavior for many years, sometimes my mind wanders as I am doing something or talking to someone. When becoming aware of not concentrating on the moment, I take a deep breath and start focusing again.

Please let us know some of the tools you use to bring yourself back into the moment.

I would love to hear about your special occasions while living in the present moment. Please leave your experiences in the comment section below, or send me an email to helen@helenburton.net. I look forward to hearing from you.

Take Care,

Helen

Living in the Moment

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I am looking out the window of my home in NJ and the butterflies are flying around the weeds and flowers. What a beautiful and peaceful picture.

It has taken me years to come to the point of just relaxing and enjoy what is happening in the moment. This was a hard transition for me to be able to take the time to enjoy what was happening right now and not focus on all the things I had to do.  I’ve attended many workshops/lectures and have read different books in which the presenters and authors always focus on the benefits of being in the moment.

How do you accomplish this feat? Some of my methods for finding peace:

  • Making myself a cup of tea, sitting in a comfortable chair and looking out the window. The first time I tried this, I sat for about 2 seconds. After trying this exercise for several weeks, I was able to sit longer. Don’t worry about your thoughts, keep telling yourself you are okay. It is amazing how relaxing and peaceful you will feel.
  • Taking a short walk outside and enjoying the sights and sound around me. Some people listen to music as they are walking and others enjoy the quiet. Moving and being outside restores my energy and I feel ready to conquer the world.
  • While spending time with friends, grandchildren and children, I take the time to think how lucky I am. On Monday evenings for the last 12 years my grandson and I have dinner together. We call this our bonding time and have built a great relationship.

Please share with us the tools you are using in order to enjoy the moment and the benefits you are receiving. Creating a list will help us find different ways of being in the moment.

Let’s continue to build our community in supporting each other with ideas, lessons learned and empowering thoughts. I am looking forward to hearing from you by leaving comments below or sending me an email at helen@helenburton.net.

Have a beautiful and peaceful day!